What Can I Do?

The events in Charlottesville have left me deeply disturbed in many ways. While I was not naive enough to believe that racism was a thing of the past, I cannot recall a time in my life when such blatant racism and bigotry had the nerve to stand proud in city streets in broad daylight. We live in a time that our grandparents and great-grandparents had hoped was put to rest all those years ago; yet we now see that hate has risen like some dormant monster rising forth from its underground cave, no longer frightened by the light of the sun. 

The danger to our nation and our society can no longer be ignored and many across this nation have heard the cries of their fellow humans from Charlottesville and taken to action. 

I struggle at times with this call to action and feeling like I cannot do enough. As a single mother, I cannot in good conscious take my children to protests or rallies that may become violent, I don’t have the free time or the spare money to donate to organizations committed to seeing the end of racism and bigotry in our land, and sometimes it feels like I just can’t do enough. 

But then I remember that I have two little boys at home who are full of potential. It may not be safe to take a three-year-old to a protest, but I can raise him to lead the march when he is older. My four-year-old may require my time for now but I can teach him the power of serving and loving others. My bank account may not have a lot of wiggle room for donations, but it costs nothing to show kindness and respect for people of all walks of life and to teach my children to do the same. 

Sometimes it feels like we cannot do enough, but the power of a mother is that she can change the world by raising her children to do more, to speak louder, to demand that our society be better. 

Sometimes it feels like our voices are not strong enough, but we can each speak kindness and love to our neighbors and we can call out bigotry and racism when we see it. 

Sometimes it feels like we do not have enough power to see the change we need come to be, but we must persist and press on through days and nights and weeks and months and years because we cannot stand by and let this evil run unchecked through our home. 

My fellow humans, hate has no home here. So let us not rest until the work is done. 


4 Things I Love About Rocky Horror Picture Show Live Shows

Our local shadow cast is performing this weekend and it’s had me reflecting on the impact of Rocky Horror Picture Show on my life, specifically live shows and shadow casts. Rocky Horror Picture Show is a cult classic that has been running consistently in theaters since it’s release in 1975. The iconic film takes you on a strange journey with Brad and Janet as they find themselves lost and end up at an alien’s castle where he’s just build himself the perfect man. It’s absurd and ridiculous in all the best ways.

Out of the film’s cult following came the live show tradition where a shadow cast performs the movie in front of the screen as the film is played. It is a singular experience and different every night and in every location. Here in Abilene, we have the Untamed Things and we perform every few months at Play Faire Park, a historic putt putt golf course here in town. My first live shows were in Ft. Worth, but now the Untamed Things are my Rocky Horror Home.

Now, I can see that you are shivering with anticipation, so without further ado, here are three things I love about Rocky Horror Picture Show.

My criminologist costume for the upcoming show


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4 Ways to be a Straight Ally During PRIDE

Ok, so, I’ll be honest, I really debated over this post for a long time. I’ve almost written it about a million times. It’s national PRIDE month. A month to honor and support and encourage our LGBTQ+ friends. As a straight, cisgender woman, it’s not my month, and to that extent, it almost feels like it’s not my place to say anything, but I love my LBGTQ+ friends deeply and I want to be a source of support and strength for them at all times, but particularly this month; and I think there are a lot of us “straight allies” who want to be supportive but maybe don’t always know how.

So to that extent, I’ve written out four really simple, basic ways a straight ally can help support the LGBTQ+ community. This list is not exhaustive and is not going to be the right answer for everyone. There may be things you do to help the LGBTQ+ community that I won’t list here and there may be things that I list that you don’t agree with. I am open to dialogue with anyone about how straight allies can better help and support our fellow humans this month and all months of the year.

With that massively wordy intro, here are my four suggestions on ways to be a straight ally this month.

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What’s going on…

Hello my lovelies!

Oh, it’s been a long time since I wrote to you all. I’ve missed you, but life has had some curves lately and writing has had to take a backseat for quite some time.

I guess the best way to say it is to just say it: I’m getting divorced.

Yup, the big D, and not the fun one.

It’s been a long time coming, and while it sucks, some days more than others, I know it’s what’s best for me, my kids, and my soon-to-be-ex-husband.

I don’t want to go into details because it’s not just my story and I don’t really feel like it’s my place to tell it, but it’s a big change for me and my family.

I don’t hate my husband-to-be-ex (there’s no good term for this in-between stuff), and you won’t find me bad mouthing him anywhere online, or in person. I have a few trusted friends I can vent to, but he’s a good person and a great dad and I sincerely wish him all the happiness in the world. We just weren’t meant to be spouses.

The kids are doing well. They don’t quite “get it” but they’re adapting.

It’s hard, but life is never stagnant and this is simply the way that our path has turned through the woods.

So, all that being said, the blog might start to look a little different, because my life is starting to look a little different; but I’m excited to start sharing it with you all again.