Give up the guilt already. I’m not going to beat around the bush or pussyfoot around on this topic. We have a society that is obsessed with guilt-ridden motherhood and it doesn’t do a damn bit of good for us or our families.
Stay-at-home moms are supposed to feel guilty for not providing financially and here’s 95 ways you can earn more money from home. Working moms should feel guilty for having to work and here’s how you too can afford to live on one income.
Single moms should be guilty for not having a stable father figure. Married moms should feel guilty for not paying enough attention to their spouses.
You should feel guilty if you’re dinner is homemade every night, you don’t serve organic only fruit, you miss a game, you don’t want to watch Frozen for the 1,245th time, you let your kids watch tv, you don’t let them watch tv, they play outside, they don’t have enough structured time, they watch educational shows, they don’t spend enough time going over flashcards.
My kid is taller than yours. He walked at an earlier age. She knows more words. He colors in the lines. She can hit a baseball. He never misbehaves. She always eats her broccoli.
Everywhere you turn, there’s someone else telling you just how much you’re sucking at this whole mom thing. And here’s the kicker- we seem to like it. There’s some sick obsession in American Mom Culture with finding new ways to feel like we aren’t good enough. We’ve got to stop this craziness.
You, yes you, are a great mom. You are the perfect mother for your children no matter if you birthed them, are fostering, or have adopted. You are a wonderful mother, not because of what you do during the day, no matter your tax status, and despite the perfect pictures you post or don’t post on social media.
You are a great mom because you love your children. That’s it. That’s all it takes. Whether you baby wear 24/7 or push that jogging stroller like a champ, your child is loved. If you cook a four course meal every night or just barely manage spaghetti, your child is loved. If you work full time, or never see another W-2, your child is loved.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t good enough or that you should feel guilty for not doing this or that. Just look in your little one’s eyes and know that they love their momma. Nothing else matters.
Be at peace my lovlies.