So, I decided to give Sister Wives a shot and watch an episode. One thing stuck out to me. One of the wives said that she is perplexed when others ask her how she does it. In a scene where they’re talking with some other women who are not polygamists, they described all the logistics of their relationships. This seems to be the least puzzling to me. What puzzles me is what the husband said. He said that he is in a monogamous relationship with each of his wives.
What? That is what people don’t know how you do. How do you go to bed at night knowing that three out of every four nights your husband is in bed with another woman. How do you sit around the TV and talk about what your husband will name his child with another woman. I get the logistics. I can see the schedules and calendars and all that, but I don’t get how you share a husband. A security guard, bank roll, handy man; sure, I could share that. But I could never share a husband.
I don’t want to get into the theology or religion of it all. I simply don’t understand the emotional aspect. Perhaps the religion provides some manner of being okay with having your husband sleep with another woman. Perhaps it’s similar to how some people seem to be okay with open marriages. I just don’t get it. I don’t mean to be prejudice or ignorant in any way.
They seem like good people, and I’ve only seen small snippets of their lives, so I’m in no place to pass judgement. However, I think that’s a large part of why it seems so strange. Others outside of that belief system can get the details of how you do it, but I don’t think others can really understand how you deal with doing it.
Just my thoughts.